Funny How The World Doesn’t Stop…

15 Oct

Hello bloggy friends,

I am here once again to explain why I have lately not been the ball-of-blogging fire that I usually am.

Back in July I told you my aunt and three cousins were in a horrific car accident while vacationing in California (they live in Pennsylvania, where I do). My aunt and one cousin did not survive  (Original Story). My other two cousins were left in critical condition. This lead me to be less than regular on my blog and responding to my emails in a timely and professional manner (something I have always prided myself on).

I am happy to say that after months of rehabilitation (both mentally and physically), my cousins Sequoia and Elizabeth, their surviving siblings and my uncle were feeling mentally ready to have a memorial service for my Aunt Beth and cousin Savanna. Our family’s lives were getting back into their normal groove.

Savanna and Aunt Beth

And then another accident.

Literally on the same day my Aunt India and my mother were sending out the memorial invitations, my cousin Steven (son to my Aunt Beth) was in a horrible motorcycle accident. Our lives went on hold again. Steven lost his leg and was left in critical condition on a ventilator. This was two weeks ago. Steven has some moments of consciousness where he responds to commands. We are hopeful he will continue to improve over the next weeks.

This is a lot for me to process and I have been faltering in my usual routine (again). I thought today about how life continues all around you. Nothing stops when you are thrown into life-altering circumstances. For a few days after Steven’s accident, I think even more than the one that took my Aunt and cousin, I felt like I was just watching life, not taking part in it – I think it’s because I am getting older and I am understanding the reality and permanence of death.

But I am also reminded of the Epictetus quote – “It’s not what happens to you, but how you react to it that matters.”

The quote will be my rally cry over the next few days.

It feels much better to ride the wave than be caught in the undertow.

My cousin Monique has set up a Go Fund Me page to help with Sequoia and Elizabeth’s medical and rehabilitation expenses. Please keep the family in your thoughts and prayers.

42 Responses to “Funny How The World Doesn’t Stop…”

  1. Angela Brown October 15, 2017 at 9:20 pm #

    There are so many things that happen in this world, some so very close to home. Even as an adult, it is difficult to process many of those things that don’t fall under the “Winning” category.

    The quote you mention is a great foundation block to build from in dealing with all that is going on. Prayers to you, your family, loved ones and friends 🙂

    Like

  2. mfearing October 15, 2017 at 9:20 pm #

    I’m sorry to hear about this latest incident. I hope your family is moving forward and you have the time you need to play your part. I’m very sorry for all the tragedy you and your family are living through. All my best. – M

    Like

  3. Lynn October 15, 2017 at 10:12 pm #

    Erik, please know love is being sent your way and prayers have been spoken for your family. Sometimes, life – to be blunt – just sucks. I know exactly how you feel about the world not stopping when your own life is in crisis mode. Been there, done that, will do it again. That’s part of life. But you will find your strength in the One Who is Strength.
    You will come through.
    XOXO

    Like

    • ThisKidReviewsBooks October 16, 2017 at 7:11 pm #

      Thank you very very much Grandma Lynn – and I have read your email, but have not had a chance to reply yet. But your message was most appreciated.

      Liked by 1 person

  4. Julie Grasso October 15, 2017 at 10:41 pm #

    Oh Erik this is so heart breaking. Please know I am sending up prayers for Steven. Keep us posted if you feel up to it.

    Like

  5. Claudine Gueh October 15, 2017 at 10:46 pm #

    Dear Erik:

    I’m very sorry to hear this. Hold on strong to that quote. For sure, you and your family are in my thoughts. Take good care of yourself, ok?

    With my warmest love,
    Claudine

    Like

  6. Michelle Lynn Senters October 16, 2017 at 2:35 am #

    Oh, my young friend. Please know you and your family are in prayers. If I could give you one gift, it would be the gift of rest. True rest in the One who created green pastures to restore our soul. Not only did He give the gift of rest, but God knew our propensity to continue working, so He commanded rest. You have a wonderful reputation within the writing community and your work is valued. You may rest and grieve and wrestle without explanation or guilt. Your readers will wait and many of us will uphold you in prayer while doing so.

    Like

  7. Jil October 16, 2017 at 6:41 am #

    So sorry for all of this! Praying for your family

    Sent from my iPad Joan Leotta Author, Story performer http://Www.joanleotta.wordpress.com

    >

    Like

  8. Darlene October 16, 2017 at 8:49 am #

    So sorry to hear this, Erik. Your family has certainly had more than your share of sad events this year. I hope you are all coping OK. Blessings to all of you and prayers your cousin will make a complete recovery. I love the picture of your aunt and cousin. Two lovely angels. ❤

    Like

  9. Patricia Tilton October 16, 2017 at 10:06 am #

    You are young to experience so much loss. Sometimes observing helps you see the grace and goodness of people when something so tragic happens. The Epictetus quote is one of my favorite quotes. I have personally dealt with a lot of trauma and loss in my life and have learned along the way that life is a test about how I handled the situations. Believe it or not, it will make you stronger and appreciate family and life. You are learning a lesson much earlier than I did. Prays and love to you and your family. Your cousins will need a lot of support. Blessings to all.

    Like

    • ThisKidReviewsBooks October 16, 2017 at 7:42 pm #

      Thank you Mrs. Tilton – it really means a lot to me. It definitely helps to remember the positive aspects of such turmoil: the family becomes closer, and we all become stronger. 🙂

      Liked by 2 people

  10. cschwanke2013 October 16, 2017 at 10:28 am #

    Hey Erik,

    Wow. This is a lot to deal with. But you’re facing it well. A lot of people never learn the lessons you are mastering now. My sympathies, thoughts and prayers will indeed be with you.

    Like

  11. heylookawriterfellow October 16, 2017 at 10:52 am #

    I am so very sorry to hear this, Erik. My prayers go out to you and your family.

    Like

  12. Robyn Campbell October 16, 2017 at 12:18 pm #

    I have missed you so much. Sending you an email. PLEASE hang in. I PROMISE you it will get better. All my love,

    Guess Who 😉

    Like

  13. Genevieve Petrillo October 16, 2017 at 12:20 pm #

    Oh, wow, E. That is a LOT to process – even for a grown-up young man like yourself. Mom and I said prayers for your family to recover and to stay strong through this and for the doctors, nurses, and therapists to be wise and compassionate and skilled. We look forward to your usual cheerful, fun posts in the near future, when you can get your feet under you and when your life gets back to the new normal.

    Love and licks,
    Cupcake

    Like

    • ThisKidReviewsBooks October 16, 2017 at 7:47 pm #

      Thank you very much Cupcake. You are perhaps the most thoughtful and uplifting dog I’ve ever had the pleasure of chatting with – and it means a lot to me. Thank you. 🙂

      Like

  14. Pragmatic Mom October 16, 2017 at 12:54 pm #

    I am so sorry to hear about this second accident. Saying prayers for recovery and support for everyone in your family. Let us know what we can do to help.

    Like

    • ThisKidReviewsBooks October 16, 2017 at 7:50 pm #

      Thank you Ms. Wenjen. If you would like to help, you may donate to the gofundme page, or you can keep sending prayers. All are important. 🙂

      Like

  15. gretchenwing October 16, 2017 at 4:26 pm #

    Oh, Erik, I am so grieved to hear how much you and your loved ones have had to face. I have stayed away from the bloggy world a bit myself recently, so coming back in to hear your news now is a shock. I will keep you and your family in my prayers now.

    Like

  16. Jemima Pett October 16, 2017 at 5:16 pm #

    Such a whole load of stuff happening in one family. It makes you wonder, sometimes. But it is just life and it can deal people several blows at once, or let them slip gently through without much happening at all. What I’m trying to say is, be strong for those that need your strength, and accept help from those who know that even your strength isn’t enough all the time. Your friends are with you, always.

    Like

  17. Catherine Johnson October 16, 2017 at 9:20 pm #

    Oh my goodness, Erik my sincere condolences for all your losses. I’m so sorry to hear such sad news. That is super sucky to have two in a row. Take your time with everything. Prayers for your family x

    Like

  18. Paul Acampora October 16, 2017 at 11:22 pm #

    Erik –There will be better days ahead. In the meantime, you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.

    Like

  19. Jilanne Hoffmann October 16, 2017 at 11:31 pm #

    Oh, Erik. I’m so sorry. Such a tough time for you and your family. Really and truly, don’t worry about us. We’ll be here whenever you have time and feel like writing. Right now might not be the time for you to try to be keeping up your blog or with your emails. People understand. Just do what you need to do to deal with all of this tragedy. Sending best wishes for your cousin’s recovery. Take care.

    Like

    • ThisKidReviewsBooks October 17, 2017 at 6:54 am #

      Thank you very much for your well-wishes Ms. Hoffman – it means a lot to all of us. 🙂

      Like

  20. Lauri Meyers October 17, 2017 at 1:57 pm #

    Thoughts and prayers with you and your family.

    Like

  21. David Eveleigh October 18, 2017 at 7:26 am #

    I’m so sorry to hear about the tragedies that have hit you and your family. If you check your email, you’ll find that I’ve sent you a surprise. I hope it cheers you up. All the best to you and your family.

    Like

    • ThisKidReviewsBooks October 18, 2017 at 7:50 pm #

      Thank you very much Mr. Eveleigh – I got your email, but I didn’t have time to respond. I really like the premise of your new book – I can’t wait to read it! 🙂

      Like

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out / Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out / Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out / Change )

Google+ photo

You are commenting using your Google+ account. Log Out / Change )

Connecting to %s

%d bloggers like this: